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• Expect positive outcomes every day!
• Start each day by planting positive seeds of thought!
• Look forward, not backward…
• Take time every day to daydream
• Dare to aim high
• Attitude is everything!
• Learn from your mistakes and move on
• Enjoy the sunset
• Accept occasional small setbacks
• Live your dreams!

• Put your plans on paper. Spell out your goals and ways to reach them.
• Be specific. The advice you give yourself must be such that you can put it into
practice.
• Break the task down into small pieces so that you can handle them easily.
• Establish checkpoints on your progress as well as rewards.
• Remind yourself of the benefits you expect from your tasks completion.
• Avoid temptations and circumstances that might sidetrack you.
• Recognize your limitations. Don’t set unrealistic goals.
• Take advantage of your own energy peaks!
• Use negative motivation. Remind yourself of the consequences of inaction.
• Keep a time-control budget. Don’t let one task take control over others.
• Set deadlines and hold yourself to them.
• Make an honest distinction between “I can’t” and “I don’t want to”.
• Get started now. Don’t stall.
• Improve your self-persuasion ability. Learn the difference between reasoning and
rationalizing.
• Be optimistic. Your chances for success will increase.
• Decide how you want to start, what needs to be done first.
• Read, especially literature related to your situation.
• Use self-signaling devices – notes, signs, cues, reminders.
• Promise yourself rewards.
• Use the stimulation provided by good news to do extra work.
• Recognize conflicts and make a choice.
• Give yourself the right to make mistakes. No one is perfect.
• Exercise your sense of humor. Laughter indicates a realistic point of view.

Dr. Phil’s Ten Life Laws

Life Law #1: You either get it or you don’t.
Strategy: Become one of those who gets it.

It’s easy to tell these people apart. Those who "get it" understand how things work and have a strategy to create the results they want. Those who don’t are stumbling along looking puzzled, and can be found complaining that they never seem to get a break.
You must do what it takes to accumulate enough knowledge to "get it." You need to operate with the information and skills that are necessary to win. Be prepared, tune in, find out how the game is played and play by the rules.
In designing a strategy and getting the information you need — about yourself, people you encounter, or situations — be careful from whom you accept input. Wrong thinking and misinformation can seal your fate before you even begin. 

Life Law #2: You create your own experience.
Strategy: Acknowledge and accept accountability for your life.
Understand your role in creating results. 

You cannot dodge responsibility for how and why your life is the way it is. If you don’t like your job, you are accountable. If you are overweight, you are accountable. If you are not happy, you are accountable. You are creating the situations you are in and the emotions that flow from those situations.
Don’t play the role of victim, or use past events to build excuses. It guarantees you no progress, no healing, and no victory. You will never fix a problem by blaming someone else. Whether the cards you’ve been dealt are good or bad, you’re in charge of yourself now.
Every choice you make — including the thoughts you think — has consequences. When you choose the behavior or thought, you choose the consequences. If you choose to stay with a destructive partner, then you choose the consequences of pain and suffering. If you choose thoughts contaminated with anger and bitterness, then you will create an experience of alienation and hostility. When you start choosing the right behavior and thoughts — which will take a lot of discipline — you’ll get the right consequences. 

Life Law #3: People do what works.
Strategy: Identify the payoffs that drive your behavior and that of
others.

Even the most destructive behaviors have a payoff. If you did not perceive the behavior in question to generate some value to you, you would not do it. If you want to stop behaving in a certain way, you’ve got to stop "paying yourself off" for doing it.
Find and control the payoffs, because you can’t stop a behavior until you recognize what you are gaining from it. Payoffs can be as simple as money gained by going to work to psychological payoffs of acceptance, approval, praise, love or companionship. It is possible that you are feeding off unhealthy, addictive and imprisoning payoffs, such as self-punishment or distorted self-importance. 
Be alert to the possibility that your behavior is controlled by fear of rejection. It’s easier not to change. Try something new or put yourself on the line. Also consider if your need for immediate gratification creates an appetite for a small payoff now rather than a large payoff later.

Life Law #4: You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.
Strategy: Get real with yourself about life and everybody in it. Be
truthful about what isn’t working in your life. Stop making excuses and start making results. 

If you’re unwilling or unable to identify and consciously acknowledge your negative behaviors, characteristics or life patterns, then you will not change them. (In fact, they will only grow worse and become more entrenched in your life.) You’ve got to face it to replace it.
Acknowledgment means slapping yourself in the face with the brutal reality, admitting that you are getting payoffs for what you are doing, and giving yourself a no-kidding, bottom-line truthful confrontation. You cannot afford the luxury of lies, denial or defensiveness.
Where are you now? If you hope to have a winning life strategy, you have to be honest about where your life is right now. Your life is not too bad to fix and it’s not too late to fix it. But be honest about what needs fixing. If you lie to yourself about any dimension of your life, an otherwise sound strategy will be
compromised.

Life Law #5: Life rewards action.
Strategy: Make careful decisions and then pull the trigger. Learn that the world couldn’t care less about thoughts without actions. 

Talk is cheap. It’s what you do that determines the script of your life. Translate your insights, understandings and awareness into purposeful, meaningful, constructive actions. They are of no value until then. Measure yourself and others based on results — not intentions or words.
Use any pain you have to propel you out of the situation you are in and to get you where you want to be. The same pain that burdens you now could be turned to your advantage. It may be the very motivation you need to change your life. 
Decide that you are worth the risk of taking action, and that your dreams are not to be sold out. Know that putting yourself at risk may be scary, but it will be worth it. You must leave behind the comfortable and familiar if you are to move onward and upward. 

Life Law #6: There is no reality, only perception.
Strategy: Identify the filters through which you view the world.
Acknowledge your history without being controlled by it.

You know and experience this world only through the perceptions that you create. You have the ability to choose how you perceive any event in your life, and you exercise this power of choice in every circumstance, every day of your life. No matter what the situation, you choose your reaction, assigning meaning and value to an event. 
We all view the world through individual filters, which influence the
interpretations we give events, how we respond, and how we are responded to. Be aware of the factors that influence the way you see the world, so you can compensate for them and react against them. If you continue to view the world through a filter created by past events, then you are allowing your past to control and dictate both your present and your future.
Filters are made up of fixed beliefs, negative ideas that have become entrenched in your thinking. They are dangerous because if you treat them as fact, you will not seek, receive or process new information, which undermines your plans for change. If you "shake up" your belief system by challenging these views and testing their validity, the freshness of your perspective can be startling.

Life Law #7: Life is managed; it is not cured.
Strategy: Learn to take charge of your life and hold on. This is a long ride, and you are the driver every single day.

You are a life manager, and your objective is to actively manage your life in a way that generates high-quality results. You are your own most important resource for making your life work. Success is a moving target that must be tracked and continually pursued.
Effective life management means you need to require more of yourself in your grooming, self-control, emotional management, interaction with others, work performance, dealing with fear, and in every other category you can think of. You must approach this task with the most intense commitment, direction and urgency you can muster. 
The key to managing your life is to have a strategy. If you have a clear-cut plan, and the courage, commitment and energy to execute that strategy, you can flourish. If you don’t have a plan, you’ll be a stepping stone for those who do.
You can also help yourself as a life manager if you manage your expectations. If you don’t require much of yourself, your life will be of poor quality. If you have unrealistic standards, then you are adding to your difficulties.

Life Law #8: We teach people how to treat us.
Strategy: Own, rather than complain about, how people treat you.
Learn to renegotiate your relationships to have what you want.

You either teach people to treat you with dignity and respect, or you don’t. This means you are partly responsible for the mistreatment that you get at the hands of someone else. You shape others’ behavior when you teach them what they can get away with and what they cannot.
If the people in your life treat you in an undesirable way, figure out what you are doing to reinforce, elicit or allow that treatment. Identify the payoffs you may be giving someone in response to any negative behavior. For example, when people are aggressive, bossy or controlling — and then get their way — you have rewarded them for unacceptable behavior. 
Because you are accountable, you can declare the relationship "reopened for negotiation" at any time you choose, and for as long as you choose. Even a pattern of relating that is 30 years old can be redefined. Before you reopen the negotiation, you must commit to do so from a position of strength and power, not fear and self-doubt.

Life Law #9: There is power in forgiveness.
Strategy: Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are doing to you. Take your power back from those who have hurt you.

Hate, anger and resentment are destructive, eating away at the heart and soul of the person who carries them. They are absolutely incompatible with your own peace, joy and relaxation. Ugly emotions change who you are and contaminate every relationship you have. They can also take a physical toll on your body, including sleep disturbance, headaches, back spasms, and even heart attacks. 
Forgiveness sets you free from the bonds of hatred, anger and resentment. The only way to rise above the negatives of a relationship in which you were hurt is to take the moral high ground, and forgive the person who hurt you. 
Forgiveness is not about another person who has transgressed against you; it is about you. Forgiveness is about doing whatever it takes to preserve the power to create your own emotional state. It is a gift to yourself and it frees you. You don’t have to have the other person’s cooperation, and they do not have to be sorry or admit the error of their ways. Do it for yourself.

Life Law #10: You have to name it before you can claim it.
Strategy: Get clear about what you want and take your turn. 

Not knowing what you want — from your major life goals to your day-to-day desires — is not OK. The most you’ll ever get is what you ask for. If you don’t even know what it is that you want, then you can’t even ask for it. You also won’t even know if you get there! 
By being specific in defining your goal, the choices you make along the way will be more goal-directed. You will recognize which behaviors and choices support your goals — and which do not. You will know when you are heading toward your goal, and when you are off track. 
Be bold enough to reach for what will truly fill you up, without being unrealistic. Once you have the strength and resolve enough to believe that you deserve what it is that you want, then and only then will you be bold enough to step up and claim it. Remember that if you don’t, someone else will.

Here’s something to think about when we are hit by life’s "downs"…

Hospital Window

A great note for all to read it will take just 37 seconds to read this and change your thinking      

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.
His bed was next to the room’s only window.      

The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.

The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and
families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military
service, where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he
would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he
could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where
his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and
colour of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played
on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers
walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every colour and a fine view of the
city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the
man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the
picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by.      

Although the other man couldn’t hear the band - he could see it. In his
mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive
words.

Days and weeks passed.      

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only
to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died
peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital
attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be
moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and
after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first
look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out
the window beside the bed.

It faced a blank wall.

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate
who had described such wonderful things outside this window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.      

She said, "Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you."      

Epilogue:      
There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.      
Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.      
If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can’t buy.      
"Today is a gift, that’s why it is called the present."      

Just in case you ever got
the two mixed up, this should make things a bit more clear…
IN PRISON… you spend the
majority of your time in an 8X10 cell;
AT WORK… you spend the
majority of your time in a 6X8 cubicle.

IN PRISON… you get three
meals a day;
AT WORK… you only get a
break for one meal
and you have to pay for it.

IN PRISON… you get time
off for good behavior;
AT WORK…you get rewarded
for good behavior with more work. 

IN PRISON… the guard locks
and unlocks all the doors for you;
AT WORK… you must carry
around a security card and open all the doors for yourself.

IN PRISON… you can watch
TV and play games;
AT WORK… you get fired for
watching TV and playing games. 

IN PRISON… you get your
own toilet;
AT WORK… you have to share

IN PRISON… they allow your
family and friends to visit;
AT WORK… you can’t even
speak to your family. 

IN PRISON… all expenses
are paid by the tax-payers with no work required;
AT WORK… you get to pay
all the expenses to go to work and then they deduct taxes from your salary to
pay for prisoners.

IN PRISON… you spend most
of ur life looking through bars from
inside wanting to get out.
AT WORK… you spend most of
your time wanting to get out and go inside bars. 

IN PRISON… there are
wardens.
AT WORK…they are called
managers.

But cheer up, because
IN PRISON… you have to
stay all the time.
AT WORK…you get to go home
sometimes.

ANGELS
and their   

INSTRUCTIONS
FOR LIFE

1. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

2. Memorize your favourite poem.

3. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all
you want.

4. When you say, "I love you", mean it.

5. When you say, "I’m sorry", look the person in the
eye.

6. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

7. Believe in love at first sight.

8. Never laugh at anyone’s dreams. People who don’t have dreams
don’t have much.

9. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the
only way to live life completely.

10. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name-calling.

11. Don’t judge people by
their relatives.

12. Talk slowly but think quickly.

13. When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer,
smile and ask,
"Why do you want to know?"

14. Remember that great
love and great achievements involve great risk.

15. Call your mom.

16. Say, "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.

17. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

18. Remember the three R’s:
Respect for self;
Respect for
others,
Responsibility for all your actions.

19. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

20. When you realise you’ve made a mistake take immediate steps
to correct it.

21. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in
your voice.

22. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older,
their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

23. Spend some time
alone.

24. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.

25. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

26. Read more books and
watch less TV.

27. Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and
think back,
you’ll get to enjoy it a second time.

28. Trust in God but lock your car.

29. A loving atmosphere
in your home is so important. Do all you can
to create a tranquil harmonious home.

30. In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current
situation.
Don’t bring up the past.

31. Read between the lines.

32. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.

33. Be gentle with the earth.

34. Pray. There’s immeasurable power in it.

35. Never interrupt when
you are being flattered.

36. Mind your own business.

37. Don’t trust a man/woman who doesn’t close his/her eyes when
you kiss.

38. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.

39. If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others
while you are living.
That is wealth’s greatest satisfaction.

40. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a
stroke of luck.

41. Learn the rules then
break some.

42. Remember that the best relationship is one where your love
for each other is
greater than your need for each other.

43. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to
get it.

44. Remember that your character is your destiny.

45. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.

"No Man is worth a woman’s tears.   The only one who’s worth her tears is the one who knows he could but would never, ever make her cry."
 
Read This Alone, Especially The Poem…. Whether you believe in the cases or not, that is up to you.

CASE 1:

Kelly Sedey had one wish, for her boyfriend of three years, David Marsden, to propose to her. Then one day when she was out to lunch David proposed! She accepted, but then had to leave because she had a meeting in 20 min.
When she got to her office, she noticed on her computer she had some e-mail’s. She checked it, the usual stuff from her friends, but then she saw one that she had never gotten before. It was this poem.  She simply deleted it without even reading all of it.
      

BIG MISTAKE!

Later that evening, she received a phone call from the police.  It was about DAVID! He had been in an accident with an 18-wheeler. He didn’t survive.

CASE 2:

Take Katie Robinson She received this poem and being the believer that she was, she sent it to a few of her friends but didn’t have enough e-mail addresses to send out the full 10 that you must. Three days later, Katie went to a masquerade ball. Later that night when she left to get to her car to go home, she was killed on the spot by a hit-and-run drunk driver.
 

CASE 3:

Richard S. Willis sent this poem out within 45 minutes of reading it. Not even 4 hours later walking along the street to his new job interview with a really big company, when he ran into Cynthia Bell, his secret love for 5 years. Cynthia came up to him and told him of her passionate crush on him that she had had on him for 2 years. Three days later, he proposed to her and they got     married. Cynthia and Richard are still married with three children, happy as ever!
 
         

This is the poem:

Around the corner I have a friend,
In this great city that has no end,
Yet the days go by and weeks rush on,
And before I know it, a year is gone.
And I never see my old friends face,
For life is a swift and terrible race,
He knows I like him just as well,
As in the days when I rang his bell.
And he rang mine but we were younger then,
And now we are busy, tired men.
Tired of playing a foolish game,
Tired of trying to make a name.
"Tomorrow" I say! "I will call on Jim
Just to show that I’m thinking of him."
But tomorrow comes and tomorrow goes,
And distance between us grows and grows.
Around the corner, yet miles away,
Here’s a telegram sir," "Jim died today."
And that’s what we get and deserve in the end.
Around the corner, a vanished friend.
Remember to always say what you mean.
If you love someone, tell them.
Don’t be afraid to express yourself.
Reach out and tell someone what they mean to you.
Because when you decide that it is the right time it
might be too late.
Seize the day. Never have regrets.
And most importantly, stay close to your friends and family, for they helped you make a better person that you are today.